The unfathomable ache creeping in my stomach and that atrocious agony; in that flash I realized no more be I seeing those amorous eyes and feeling that tender touch. The house of dreams had come to dust and my hollow hopes lied there shattered.

1. Now That You’re Somebody That I used to know
“…it was like every goodbye ever said to me was all said at once!” The unfathomable
ache creeping in my stomach and that atrocious agony; in that flash I realized no more be
I seeing those amorous eyes and feeling that tender touch. The house of dreams had come
to dust and my hollow hopes lied there shattered. What followed after that heartrending
breakup is cited below:
Cutting Them Off
That was a slow unraveling love affair or the fervent fling, the sudden crash of any
relationship breaks you from inside and leaves you feeling dejected, beaten and
powerless. You drop out from the social life and in solitary you cry your guts out or
scream at the top of your voice. Sometimes you’ll find yourself pondering if you could
have done things differently. Such actions, doubts, and regrets are customary after that
heartbreak. And one day you decide not to torment yourself anymore and get rid of their
contact, texts, pictures, e-mails, gifts and anything else that reminds you of them. And
you’ll sense that a huge chunk of weight lifted off from your shoulders and you feel more
like your own self.
Certainly Memories Catch Up On You Time & Time Again
However there are going to be the times when you are drenched in emotions and you
miss them badly, may be a feeling of loneliness, or you are high, that common friend who
unintentionally mentions their name, or stumbling over those love notes buried in the
shelves. In a snap of that moment, you may feel the urge of calling your ex again or
getting back together. Rather than doing anything impulsive think, if that’s what you
really want? Yes, you have a history and a bountiful of memories together; there was a
time when that person was life, but the times have changed. While there is no harm in
cherishing the happy memories occasionally yet always remember that you broke up for a
reason and going back and forth are just a fraction of the healing process.
Grief Is A Fast Teacher Than Joy
You fought your might to hold onto the falling relationship till it left you feeling all
consumed and suffocated. Believe me, my friend, it was intense but you will get through
it. As blasé it sounds, the life goes on and so do you. Long after denial, pain, and anger
you gradually give up and start accepting that they are gone, for good. While you may
blame them for a lot of things, in your heart you knew it was going to happen and you
have to live this. Yet it is hurting you; in place of bottling up your emotions and grief
inside you, find a trusted shoulder to cry on. When you vent out your feelings of
rejection, you feel light and in a whirlwind your whole life vision takes a makeover.
When you decide to rise out of your misery, your life shapes you into the person you’ll
like to be tomorrow.
You Come Out Stronger & Better
Thinking how to nurse a heart that seems beyond repair? Nothing rejuvenates you like a
break. When you are in a relationship, you focus much of your time on being with them
and forget yourself. Heartbreak teaches you to stop looking up to somebody else for love,
attention, and support and rather enjoy being alone. You can take off to the undiscovered
place that suits your fancy or take up a hobby you like the most, or indulge yourself in
shopping & relishing your favorite stuff. The whole lot of self-pampering will make you
realize that you’re much stronger than you thought, and you become your best mate and
mentor. Eventually, life will be just as good as it was before, probably even better.
They Appear The Same & Yet So Different
All the time after the break up you were terrified with the thought of bumping into your
ex and it never happened. Long after, you see them again. A breeze of faded memories
touches you. They look pretty much the same person like you’ve left, the one who knew
all your daily anxieties, highs and lows, the one who made you happy and at hours made
you cry, the one whom you loved with all your heart; yet they appear so different. They
seem more mature and you could no more casually go up to them and share greetings. At
that moment, you will realize that the lover you once obsessed over seems like a far-flung
memory, a stranger.
It’s okay to go through all the aforementioned stages after that poignant heartbreak, but in
retrospection you learn some lifelong lessons. Not every relationship is meant to be
eternal, sometimes the people enter your life and become the world to you and then they
stop being the part of your world. When they leave, it doesn’t matter for how long the
relation lasted, what matters is how you are embracing the reality that they’ve left. The
key is to let go of the past and live life for yourself, your betterment. Once you get over
the old flames, you may find your true soul mate who loves you for who you are.