The document lists warning signs of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) in relationships. It states that people with NPD seek attention, empathy and adulation from others. They idealize their target at first through intense focus and feeling "chosen". However, their interest is just a pretense to get supply. Over time, devaluing begins privately, causing confusion. Victims feel sorry for the person with NPD and blame themselves for the abusive behavior, while the abuser denies responsibility. The cycle of abuse, manipulation and gaslighting leaves victims questioning their own reality.

1. RED FLAGS
TO
NARCISSISTIC
PERSONALITY
DISORDER (NPD)
COMPILED BY JENI MAWTER

2. How does a
relationship that
feels so right …

3. … go so
wrong?

4. NPD WARNING SIGNS
IGNORE AT YOUR PERIL

5. NPDS ARE LOOKING FOR ENABLERS
WHO GIVE „NARCISSISTIC SUPPLY‟
ATTENTION + EMPATHY + ADULATION

6. YOU ARE SELECTED BY HOW YOU
RESPOND TO THE NPDS FOCUS

7. YOU BECOME THE TARGET FOR
LOVE „BOMBING‟

8. AN INTENSE FOCUS IS ON YOU

10. IT FEELS LIKE YOU HAVE BEEN „CHOSEN‟
YOU ARE SPECIAL

11. NPDS ARE OFTEN CHARISMATIC

12. BUT…

13. NPD INTEREST IN YOU IS A PRETENSE

14. YOUR ENCOUNTER WILL BE LIKE AN
INTERVIEW, NOT A CONVERSATION

15. NPDS „BANK‟ OR STORE YOUR EMOTIONS,
THOUGHTS AND EXPERIENCES
(EXPOSED WEAKNESSES WILL BE USED AGAINST YOU LATER)

16. THEIR LOVE IS ALL-CONSUMING

17. THIS FEELS PERFECT …

18. UNTIL …

19. NPDS HAVE AN INFLATED
SENSE OF „SELF‟ SUPERIORITY

20. THEY EXPECT, AND DEMAND,
TO BE WORSHIPPED

21. THEY HAVE A STRONG SENSE
OF ENTITLEMENT

22. NPDS ARE NEVER RESPONSIBLE FOR
THEIR ACTIONS OR WORDS
THEY BLAME THE WORLD AND OTHERS

23. ABUSE STARTS WITH
OCCASIONAL SUBTLE PUTDOWNS

24. EMPATHY IS FEIGNED

25. WITHOUT AN AUDIENCE
NPDS HAVE NO EMPATHY

26. NPDS WEAR TWO FACES

27. FRIENDLY IN PUBLIC
BACKSTABBING IN PRIVATE

28. NPDS ARE THE
MASTERS OF CAMOUFLAGE

29. LOVE BOMBING CONTINUES
YOU DROWN IN THIS SEA OF LOVE

30. BUT… DEVALUING BEGINS
(USUALLY IN PRIVATE)

31. WHEN WORDS CONTRADICT BEHAVIOUR
YOU FEEL CONFUSED

32. TO THE WORLD
THIS PERSON IS PERFECT

33. TO THE NPD, YOU ARE NOT PERFECT
YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO AN OPINION

34. IT‟S “MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY”

36. YOUR VALUE COMES FROM HOW YOU
RESPOND TO THE NPD – NOT FROM
WHO YOU ARE

37. YOU BECOME ISOLATED
LOSE FAMILY, FRIENDS, COLLEAGUES
AND COMMUNITY

38. ATTEMPTS TO ASSERT YOURSELF
LEAD TO „NARCISSISTIC RAGE‟

39. YET YOU FEEL SORRY FOR THE NPD

40. YOUR ROLE IS TO PLEASE THEM

41. NPDS ARE HYPERSENSITIVE AND
PERCEIVE CRITICISM
WHEN NONE IS INTENDED

42. NARCISSISTIC RAGE ESCALATES
(ONLY IN PRIVATE)

43. MANIPULATION TACTICS USED TO CONTROL YOU
GASLIGHTING DENIAL LYING EXCUSES

44. I never said that.
You’re imagining things.
You’re crazy.
That never happened.
Can’t you take a joke?
COMMONLY HEARD …

45. MUCH OF WHAT IS SAID IS A LIE

46. AS A NPD VICTIM YOU
NO LONGER TRUST YOUR OWN
PERCEPTION, MEMORY, OR JUDGEMENT

48. BLAMING: NPDS ARE
NEVER RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS
“IT‟S ALL YOUR FAULT”

49. YOU ARE IN A CYCLE OF VALUE AND DISCARD

50. YOU KEEP TRYING TO RETURN
TO YOUR OLD RELATIONSHIP

51. YET YOU OFTEN WONDER…

52. YOUR BOUNDARIES WILL NOT BE
RESPECTED

53. YOU‟RE WALKING ON EGGSHELLS

54. ENABLERS DO NOT BELIEVE YOU
THEY PROTECT THE NPD

55. YOU ARE SILENCED

56. SILENCED

57. YOUR ABUSER WON‟T LET YOU GO
THEY CRY CROCODILE TEARS

58. WELCOME TO THE CYCLE OF ABUSE

59. NO, YOU‟RE NOT CRAZY!!!
THIS WHOLE SITUATION IS CRAZY MAKING

60. YOU‟VE BEEN „NARCISSISED‟
AND YOU NEVER KNEW …

61. UNTIL NOW

62. FINALLY THE PIECES FIT TOGETHER!

63. NO MORE RED FLAG CONFUSION

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Narcissistic Personality Disorder
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